Coming out is a never-ending process. I remember I came out to my best friend since childhood during our second year at the University. I then came out at once to my 10 housemates during my third college year of studying in Germany. Since those college days, I have come out to countless friends, colleagues, teachers, clients, and strangers. But it was only 5 years ago, at the age of 39, that I finally had the courage to come out to my parents. They say the ones you love the most are the ones you are most fearful of hurting. At least that was what I thought. But, surprisingly, my mom told me that she feels so pained that I had to wait this long to tell her my secret, and that she would have accepted me regardless because I am her son. With my parents blessings, I dared to dream the impossible…of starting a family. And now, my partner and I are proud parents of two twin boys through surrogacy. And of course, my parents are proud and happy grandparents.
Coming out means creating new possibilities in one’s life. It takes a lot of courage, but it is worth it.